Sometimes we build up a wonderful image of something that we’re anticipating, such as a much needed holiday. Disappointment can easily happen if things don’t live up to the expectations we’ve built up in our mind, or if some unexpected issue arises.
The best way to prevent disappointment is to be prepared. Have realistic expectations from the start and adjust your expectations as you acclimatize to reality. For example, when I went to Egypt, I had imagined the pyramids being out in the middle of the desert, far from the city. I was disappointed to discover that Cairo sprawls right up to the ancient site.
I was able to re-align my expectations and make the most of it and look on the bright side. I had pictured myself on an adventurous camel ride to see the Sphinx; it turned out to be easy and convenient to arrange, even if it wasn’t exactly as I had envisioned.
The discrepancy between my expectations and reality in this example created only a minor impact to my overall experience, kind of like ordering a salad with my restaurant meal and getting fries instead. There are many scenarios that could have a more serious impact.
Being blind-sided by an unpleasant surprise is never fun; at least if you knew what was coming, you’d be prepared to handle it. It is a good idea to research your destination in advance. Think about what would make or break a holiday and plan accordingly. For example, if an ocean view, balcony, aisle seat, or quiet resort is important, make it a clear priority. It may cost a bit more, but you should be able to book something suitable. If you are not willing to pay extra, you can make requests, but keep your expectations low and consider it a bonus if your requests are granted.
Don’t make assumptions. If you’re expecting something and don’t get it, you’re likely to be disappointed. Unfortunately, on many flights you now have to pay for luggage, food, seat selection and more. If you’re not sure about something, ask questions to avoid disappointment.
This article first appeared on The Armchair Mayor, Dec.7, 2014
